zeldathemes
The Private Confessions
A blog dedicated to the gross world of abuse. This blog is trigger happy and will be filled with personal confessions of (usually) emotional abuse. This blog is for my own mental health and personal journal that everyone will be able to read.

I am a college student and Psychology major so that has the potential to influence my writing and time allotted blogging. Major updates will appear swiftly and important links will be posted as soon as possible.

All the Love,
~Tamara~
Of An Abused Woman
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What are the signs of emotional abuse?

Anonymous

ezios-fine-ass:

pandemiclaughter:

monkeyfrog:

fegeleh:

the-goddamazon:

mental-health-advice:

Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.

Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.

Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.

Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.

Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.

Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,

Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.

Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.

Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.

Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.

Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.

Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.

Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.

Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.

Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.

Love, Salem

The last one is a killer and very important.

this is extremely important tw #abuse

Always reblob.

No longer walking on eggshells and being able to be completely me has been an amazing transition in my life.

a lot of these sound so like my mother

sapphicnymph:

"I’m the only one that cares about you"

when you hear those words, you turn tail and run as fast as you can. you run before it’s too late. These words are an abuse tactic

you are worth the world, and never, even in your darkest, believe that this one person is the only one who gives a shit. I have seen the kindness of strangers and friends alike, and you are not unloved. do not believe them.

books0977:

Alice (1919). John Lavery (Irish, 1856-1941). Oil on board. National Museums Northern Ireland.
The sitter for this work is Alice, Lavery’s daughter. In 1909, Lavery married Hazel Martyn (1886–1935), an Irish-American known for her beauty and poise; by her he had one daughter, Alice (Mrs. Jack McEnery).

books0977:

Alice (1919). John Lavery (Irish, 1856-1941). Oil on board. National Museums Northern Ireland.

The sitter for this work is Alice, Lavery’s daughter. In 1909, Lavery married Hazel Martyn (1886–1935), an Irish-American known for her beauty and poise; by her he had one daughter, Alice (Mrs. Jack McEnery).

say it with me now

emotional

abuse

is

still

abuse

do not fucking tell me someone with abusive parents “had it easy” just because the abuse wasn’t physical or sexual

just don’t

say it with me now

emotional

abuse

is

still

abuse

do not fucking tell me someone with abusive parents “had it easy” just because the abuse wasn’t physical or sexual

just don’t

basedheisenberg:

Being drunk does not excuse cheating.

Being drunk does not excuse rape.

Being drunk does not excuse being an asshole.

Being drunk does not excuse shitty and destructive behavior.

Being drunk is not an excuse.

Control yourself or don’t drink.

#abuse#alcohol#alcoholism#drunk

tittenkits:

p-ardiselost:

"My boyfriend/girlfriend won’t let me"
Excuse me
What was that?
LET ?
YOU ¿ 
How lovely congratulations on your 3rd parental guardian”

But seriously if your partner won’t let you do something (eg, hang out with your friends)? That’s actually a GIANT RED FLAG for an abusive relationship, please get help or get out of there.

#abusive relationship#red flags

Journal

Okay, so tonight I’ll just leave on this note. I am here to update anyone who follows on what I’m going through. This isn’t for you to pity me, it’s just an outlet for myself. Alright, here we go…

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#journal#abusive relationship#emotional abuse
#healthy relationship#unhealthy relationship#photo